If there is one thing that I've learnt..

It would be hard for me to take all of the lessons I took from 2011 and choose just one. I mean in the last year I've learnt quite a few different things. I learnt that my priorities aren't what they were a few years ago, or even in 2010 for that matter. I've learnt what it is that is important to me and whats trivial. Ive learnt how to be a better wife to my husband. I've learnt how to be a better mom to my children. Ive learnt how to be a better friend. I've learnt what real friends are and how they will be there for you while you are learning all of this. I've learnt what it is to be loved for who I am. I've learnt how to make a roast (FINALLY!!). I've learnt how to play softball. I've learnt it's not that scary to float to the middle of a lake on a tube.
But if there is one lesson that I want to take away from 2011...it's that I MATTER. I have had some really nice talks with a few different mom friends who have expressed the same thing I've been feeling. That as a mom you just kinda exist. You are there to tend to the needs of your family first and you 2nd. I think that is the amazing thing about mothers, we are so great at putting everyone around us first and still be able to smile about how blessed we are to have all those wonderful people to put first. If that makes sense. I know for myself I wouldn't have it any other way because at the end of the day I get so much out of my family in terms of love, respect, admiration, etc that its very rewarding to be a mother.
But back to my friends who feel like it wouldn't make a difference if they were there or not...let me tell you it would. Because YOU MATTER. Not just anyone can make your kids oatmeal like you do. Not just anyone can make the kind of Chocolate Chip cookies that you do. There are a million ways to fold a towel, but only you do it perfectly. That grilled cheese sandwich that you just burnt?? Well it tastes WAY better than a burger from some restaurant (unless we are talking about the Causeway Bays restaurant...then its debatable because they make one heck of a burger!). Every day in every way YOU MATTER. 
You matter to your husband because he relies on you to keep him grounded after a stressful day of work. He relies on you for kisses when he first walks in the door so that his mood can lift instantly. He relies on you for his favorite foods that only you can make his way. He relies on you to take the amazing care of his children that he knew you would do so perfectly (which is why he choose you after all). 
You matter to your children because when they fall and bonk their head, toes, elbow, etc only your kiss will heal it instantly. They rely on you to make their favorite cookies and to teach them how to make the best chocolate chip cookies. They rely on you to read them stories in all the silly voices that only you can do. They rely on you for those cuddles on days where nothing else will really make them feel better. They rely on you to mold the path they will eventually follow in life that basically starts with the way you show them you love them.
You matter to me because without friends like you in my life I wouldn't know what it was to have a real bond with a friend. I rely on you to talk to me on days that I have had such wonderful things happen to me that I just want to tell the world! And I rely on you to talk to me on days that I just wanna whisper how sad I am. I rely on you to help me with lessons in life that you may already have experience with. 
Everyone has a path in life they are meant to be on and it is only you who can be and should be on that path. So when there are days that you just feel like anyone can fit the bill, remember they can't because WE MATTER!

Happy New Years everyone. I wish love, happiness, and all wonderful things for you and your family in 2012.








....until the world ends on Dec 21, 2012 that is :)


LOVE YOU!